So now that you are ruined, how do you help you?


We all are likely to get enslaved in despair, agony, depression, anguish, pain…with or without our conscience or permission. Love which was earlier brightest or most passionate burns you to restlessness. We start with erasing the messages, deleting the numbers, burning the cards,  tossing the presents in dustbin and try to move on. We try to forget who that person was for us; we accept that they aren’t that person anymore.

Its not the moving on which is difficult. You keep turning back to see if there are any remnants of what  you sowed or it is spoiled beyond your imagination. You try to close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see but you cant stop heart from feeling what you don’t want to. It hurts when the people you know become the people you knew.

When someone leaves without a reason, it becomes a sore point, a point of no return. You feel lost. The pain culminates into anger, frustration, regret and hopelessness and a question—Why did you allow yourself and your happiness to be dependent on one person? the answer is…Love can make or break, give or take, mourn and elate, but love also brings maturity.

You don’t need to abuse her and fight her.  You have to remind yourself that she may continue to live in your heart but there was no way, she could have lived in your life. Try not to remember half the things you will never forget, vomit the anger and pain and do remember a new muse for the broken heart is as necessary as new strings for a guitar that loses its rhythm.

Do remember there is no provision of “just good friends” with someone you loved once, the feelings fade with time or injury, but they never die. Accept the anonymity. You must know what is dead must be buried before it deforms to something ghastly. It will hurt you for a first few weeks, maybe even months but you don’t need to be hopeless because
Love does not hurt, lovers do.
Take care and heal fast.


17 thoughts on “So now that you are ruined, how do you help you?

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  3. Time heals everything and lessons are learned. I don’t think any relationship is bad, as we get from it what we need, in the beginning and the end. It helps us know what we want, and what we don’t want. But most importantly what kind of person we will be in the future and that will attract the right person for us. Great post!

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